I agree. My dad also died recently, as did my cousin in the US. Another cousin had a heart attack. Quite a few are obese. We are known to eat a lot. Part of it is that the parents came from extreme poverty and then got transplanted to the West.
After my dad died, I changed my diet. I ate a lot less, measured myself each day. When my cousin died, I moved more towards veggies. I'm 10kg down from the start of the year now.
Vegan diets are also easier to stay on, IMO. It fills you up to eat a load of broccoli or beetroots, but it's barely any calories. You also poop better, which is a strangely positive thing. As for taste, it seems to change when you know what killed your family members, and you get a bit more sensitive to the things you're not getting so much of, like salt and fats.
I do exercise regularly, but like you say there's no way that can be enough, you'd have to be doing professional athlete level workouts for it to matter. It's more that it's important to keep the muscles and skeleton used, and get the heart pumping. There's also the psychological effect, it feels good.