I honestly mean the following statement as a kindness to you:
You need to suffer. It will probably do you some good.
You need to suffer. It will probably do you some good.
Obviously there's a criticism to be made about treating other people as means to an end, but this is not the way to do that.
The author's comment showed an uncommon lack of empathy for the other parties. Many people (me included) have seen that same quality in ourselves, and have found our own suffering to be a remedy to that.
When writing HN comments, I often struggle to find the right verbosity level. Perhaps in this case I didn't explain myself well enough.
@dang: Does this address your concern, or is even my clarified comment a problem? Just trying to make sure I'm clear on what you found objectionable.
When it comes to things like this, the burden is on the commenter to disambiguate their intent, and this needs to be done sufficiently well to obviate the default reactions. Previous explanations about that: https://hn.algolia.com/?dateRange=all&page=0&prefix=false&so...
If you had written something about your personal experience, like you started to do in this reply, that would have been much better. That's a much better thing to do generally!