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How did you get married and afford rent?

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It was a side project. OP mentions he has a full-time job ... also, is marriage contingent on an income level?

Both marriage and divorce rates have a very strong correlation with income in the US.

It also makes being unprofitable and living in your parents basement harder.

(Obviously GP missed that this was a side gig)

> Both marriage and divorce rates have a very strong correlation with income in the US.

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/jomf.12629

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5464617/

I think more along the lines of having a partner in a healthy relationship requires some time put forth, which unless the partner is pair programming, time is not being spent on development efforts.

Find a partner that has creative hobbies. My wife knits and writes, and I also write and design/code games/apps. We both need time to work on things, so it works out well for the most part (less so when she was in a creative slump and only wanted to watch TV every night for several months).

I also can do routine coding while the TV is on (doesn't require a lot of thinking, just typing it up and testing for minor bugs), so I can still make some progress during that, but it's less.

Granted I do have to spend more time on the relationship/taking care of dogs than when I just lived by myself, so I'm less productive than I used to be, but I still get to work on things.

Money can be a large relationship stressor and source of concern leading up to a lifetime commitment

I actually have a pretty good day job. I just have a lot of spare time. I'd rather be working on a side project instead of watching Netflix.

Thanks for reading!

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