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So, the LGBT people you talk to on HN are, in general, likely to be middle-class, and educated, and thus somewhat less likely to be facing the very worst stuff. However, yeah, most LGBT people will face at least some issues in their lives that straights don't have to deal with.

> For some reason though, we have to go over and over this mind numbing stream of preaching and virtue signaling every week

I think you're seeing what you want to see.

> I mean, what do you people want in the end?

To be treated as people, basically.

> Do I have to spend the rest of my life proving that I do not care about you at all?

You can do what you like. You seem to be taking this bizarrely personally.

Thanks for taking your time to answer, even if I can't agree with everything that you said.

> For some reason though, we have to go over and over this mind numbing stream of preaching and virtue signaling every week. You start anew every time and have to prove your loyalty to the grand cause or the ruling party, or whatever it is at this point

You can do whatever you want. As can everyone else.

If anyone doesn't feel that either of those things are true, then I really genuinely recommend some therapy. Therapy is great.

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It's very hard to avoid getting bombarded by this. You would have to completely avoid processing any information stream. Taht would still leave you with all the events and initiatives in the office. I don't really see why I should stick a pride flag on my desk and it is frowned upon if I don't. It's not a matter of therapy. I'm perfectly fine, there is a problem with people pushing politics down your throat even if you already accepted it. I cannot even imagine how people that have different opinions handle it.

Yes, I can see how it seems impossible to avoid. And trying avoid The Thing is one approach.

Another other approach is to figure out why you have these feelings in response to The Thing. Once you know why, you can work towards not having these feelings in response to The Thing.

That route is the harder one, and so is often made much easier (/possible) with the help of a therapist.

The easy 'avoid' route takes constant low-level effort and occasional difficult feelings. The hard 'why' route typically takes more up-front effort, but much less long term maintenance.

It's kinda like software: It's ok to suffer technical debit for a bit. But after a while you may just think "f--k it", lets deal with this once and for all and move on.

EDIT: Typos, general brain fail

This seems so strange to me. You could have just skipped over the article. I probably only read 5% of the stuff that shows up on the first page.

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