I guess you looked into my competition: cambiumned.nl or extraned.nl? The main purpose for us to start our site was because the geocities like of those sites.

I guess you nailed it here: - Your wife doesn't sound committed. No selling the thing (migrate to a new domain now to get rid of the name association, what's the problem?), no charging more out of fear, fear of losing control. If it's a hobby for her, and you want it to be more, you have a problem. Solve this first.

We must decide if it is hobby or business :)