I guess you nailed it here: - Your wife doesn't sound committed. No selling the thing (migrate to a new domain now to get rid of the name association, what's the problem?), no charging more out of fear, fear of losing control. If it's a hobby for her, and you want it to be more, you have a problem. Solve this first.
We must decide if it is hobby or business :)
For 2.50 you can get his yearly accounts from http://www.kvk.nl/handelsregister/zoekenframeset.asp?zk=0... - that should give you some insight into the amount of customers he has and how viable the market is.
We rank quite well on: "Nederlands oefenen" & "Werkwoordspelling" for example.
I don't know if he is obligated to send his yearly accounts to the KVK?
Getting more info on the marketsize is a good tip :)