Good luck on this but everyone I know just uses Facebook to coordinate events. Plus Facebook Mobile lets you keep updated even on the go.
"...still some people we've talked to who aren't entirely happy with it" This sounds like people that are slightly annoyed, and not really displeased enough to switch over to something else.
I just created a test on anyvite and it was super easy and common-sense. Definitely preferrable to facebook in my opinion. Two comments though:
1. RSVP dropdown is smallish/hard to notice. 2. Background images stretch in an ugly way, at least on my work IE 1024 x 768.
Otherwise, a great site!
For example, most of my friends do not use Facebook.
But all of my friends use email.