It’s like talking to someone believing their cheating spouse did X, Y, Z crazy thing. If you responded to that person trying to debunk X, Y, and Z rationally you’d just anger them further. What matters is really the underlying anger that they’re feeling. Not litigating actual facts. In fact such litigating can feel like an attack or invalidation of the underlying emotion.
Same is true with feeling threatened by the appearance of “gracias” signs at a restaurant. Or a blue collar person losing status in an increasingly knowledge economy.
I feel like to make progress as a society we have to speak to the underlying “emotional truth” and not come across as pedants over facts.