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> vicious cycle formed as I increasingly blamed myself for not working hard enough to help

Something that took me way too long to understand. Beating yourself up for feeling bad makes it twice as bad. A counter argument is negative emotional stress is motivational. My argument is negative emotional stress is one of the crummier types of motivation.

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> My argument is negative emotional stress is one of the crummier types of motivation

i agree. i am jealous of people who find empowerment in struggle this way but insistence on CBT just made me feel more alone. now that I do not feel so hopeless about being able to affect change, i am more able to reach for self-help tools, but i'd argue that it could be dangerous to have it be suggested as the first line of help for someone that's already holed up in self-destructive tools, especially if they lack self awareness.

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