Here's some information: https://www.evanmiller.org/elixir-ram-and-the-template-of-do...
On the extreme end I have a few pages that plot IoT data where it can take ~3 seconds to do a drop down in LV... Granted the server is serving a dozen SVG plots with a total of ~80,000 data points and performs the server template diff in that time. That’s on a RPi3 "server", which are also processing data, running similar pages on 4-10 browser tabs and running its own web browser. Haven't gotten close to using up the ram. Much of the slowness in that case is due to Chrome choking on that much SVG. I haven’t bothered optimizing the server side by dropping already rendered graphs.
Hope that helps give some insights. It'd be interesting to hear from people running high traffic sites.