You could alternatively look at the negative manifestations of variability, like increase crime and violence, and try to socially discourage it. Expose males to "crime is bad. bad men go to prison where they cannot have sex with women for many years. if you do crime you are bad." Observe whether crime rate of men relative to women decreases. If it does not, it is evidence that social encouragement is not responsible for the difference in crime.
You could also do a control where you discouraged men from achieving. "Nerds are gross" and see if that leads to a victory for feminism.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Judit_Polg%C3%A1r
The article has some quotations about Judits opinion:
"I always say that women should have the self-confidence that they are as good as male players, but only if they are willing to work and take it seriously as much as male players."
and after a tournsment in 1988 (12yo)
"These other girls are not serious about chess...I practice five or six hours a day, but they get distracted by cooking and work around the house."
Well, no, it hasn't, because whatever the one family does can't change society at large and the messages/treatment women receive from it. The quotes you provide are examples of that.