I do think if you're putting on a Female Founders event, you are under obligation to show up with some female founders. Like many other types of relationships, having mentors are as much about empathy, understanding, and having good role models as it is about actual business advice. The women can get advice from many other places, having Female in the title means the advice should have something to do with females.

> YCombinator created a dynamic where every man at the table was there to “advise” and every woman at the table was there to “be advised”. Every man was a “guest of honor” and every woman was a “paid attendee”.

No. This is just self victimization. It's called a coincidence, and something that should be changed. But reading into it too deeply will hurt you more than it helps you.