I think you should recalibrate to the average. Most new grads have a negative net worth. You are far ahead of the curve and it’s good you are thinking about wealth building, but it’s very dismissive to say 120k net worth is pitiful.
I was talking to a new grad engineer at Lyft who joined the same time I joined my company - his net worth is around $300k now not including unvested RSUs.
Let's say that they started at 200k per year(that seems really high). Their take-home would be 135,000 in California. That means after 1.5 years they would have taken home 202500. Even if they managed to graduate from college not only free from student loans but with a net worth of 50k, they would need to save all of their take home for the first year and a half.
Do I think that some people with 1.5 years of experience have a net worth of 300k? Sure. But I certainly don't think it is most.
> plus savings from having a lot of needs taken care of (transportation, food, laundry, etc)
This isn't additional revenue earned, this is just lowering your expenses. Yes, these perks are nice but they don't really contribute to net worth.
Graduating from college(which would cost somewhere between 150,000-500,000 for four years with limited ability to earn income) with a positive net worth is amazing. It is awesome that you were able to do it. I doubt most people are able to do so.
Life isn’t just about money or work. I have less net worth than you and a lot more years under my belt, the country I am in doesn’t pay as much for software engineers and that’s ok.