Not sure if this can be applied to your specific life situation but in my case after I had reached 30 years of age I realized that "chasing everyone else" is simply not worth the hassle, and, worst off, that it changed me into a person I didn't like, a "fake" me, so to speak. Mind you, I'm still stressed about money and bills and paying rent/mortgage like almost everyone else, not sure if there's a way of eliminating that, but for me at least it came as a huge stress reliever the fact that I didn't have to "chase" everybody else anymore.
If it matters I came to that "realization" that chasing others is futile after I had read a compendium of Stoic writers (there is another HN-er mentioning Marcus Aurelius, and for good reasons), but I'm sure there are also other writers/thinkers that have written about this.