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I can impossibly go back to an onsite job.

I got married in a Southeast Asian jurisdiction where divorce rape does not exist. Going back onsite would undoubtedly mean dragging wife and kids along into a divorce-rape jurisdiction. When I look at other people who did exactly that, their private life was completely destroyed in less than five years. Thanks but no thanks.

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> I got married in a Southeast Asian jurisdiction where divorce rape does not exist. Going back onsite would undoubtedly mean dragging wife and kids along into a divorce-rape jurisdiction.

What is divorce rape? I googled it but the only result was urban dictionary and I don't think it matches with your comment.

You seem to have used the word rape repeatedly in your comment when you meant to use the word rate.

I have no idea what "divorce-rape" means, or why you think you would divorce (if I understood right?) within five years of going back to wherever you were before.

Well, that is the way it seems to work out. The divorce rate here is very, very low. However, when people move back, they get caught up in the same (high) divorce rate of the place where they are moving to. In my opinion, family breakdown is very contagious. That is why married people better stay away from divorced ones. Well, that is how it works here. Divorcees are no longer accepted in the community. I think that this approach makes sense, simply, because it works.

You are basically saying that the main (only?) reason for your wife to stay with you is peer pressure because she would otherwise no longer be welcome in "the community", which sounds awfully like abuse to me.

I'm still not sure what you meant by "rape" in your comment, but I'm not sure anymore I want to know.

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