> these differences weren't historically used as justification to deny people the ability to have control over their lives
Isn't the problem here the "deny" part, and not the justification given? That is, had the prevailing attitude been that men and women are exactly the same and therefore they must do exactly the same (backbreaking) work, wouldn't that have been just as bad? Or even worse?
So how about we get rid of the "deny" part and just let people do what they individually want? Then we don't have to suppress scientific truths.
And letting individuals do whatever they want is what western societies have been getting better and better at, partly because of economic prosperity, partly through political, cultural and social liberalisation.
And as Western societies have gotten better at letting people do what they want, men and women have diverged.
> people push for a more complete conversation than just Male != Female
That's not what's happening, because nobody keeps it at "just Male ≠ Female". In fact, the opposite is happening, "more complete" conversations are verboten. The current narrative is that any differences that manifest themselves must be due to oppression, and if you try to have a "more complete" conversation about this topic (yes, like James Damore did), then you are a misogynistic troglodyte and must be removed.
> "Men and women aren't as different as society imposes through socialization."
Interestingly, it is that view (the "society imposes differences" one) that is contradicted by the evidence. That is: socialisation appears to make men and women more similar, not more different. Society imposes convergence, not divergence.