Hacker News Reader

Comment by lmilcin | Hacker News Reader

This is completely typical story. I worked at a bunch of companies and had a chance observing this over and over again.

The truth is that life is not fair.

You and your manager were playing a different game. While you were spending your time and resources trying to do good for your company and to get better at doing that, your manager was spending time scheming in his own interest and also getting better at it.

He beat you with experience. You were spending your time in Jira and IDE while he was building up his own image, perfecting ways to shift blame and building connections.

And you know what? It is fine. Just ask yourself, "would I want to be that person?"

View on HN

It's fine as long you know the game you're playing.

And this is the big issue : no one learn has told you, neither taught you how to play it. But some people were. Those are fine.

For the others (me included) we had to figure out on our own. Learn that we played the game the wrong way, or find another place. It took time, and a lot of investment and efforts are wasted in the process. And some people never learn. Meanwhile, those people stole undeserved credit. And if you ask them, they will tell you its thanks to their leadership and all that bullshit.

Actually, the most important thing you said is that : life is not fair. 100% fully agree.

> And you know what? It is fine.

No, it's not fine at all ... it happens, but it's not fine. Just as getting good at stealing is not fine.

It is fine. You do your own thing and try to be best at it.

Don't get slowed down by dishonest, non-cooperating types unless you have a lot of people supporting. There is more of them than you alone and they will drag you in their own territory and defeat you with their experience.

Doing something bad is not okay or fine just because you are good at it and passive support by a majority is also not an indicator for whether something is okay or not. Never was and never will be.

I think you are getting it wrong. It is not fine as we should accept it. I mean you, personally, if you want to also succeed in your life, should not get bogged down by it. Shrug, tell yourself "I will learn from it and look for it in the future but right now I am not going to spend resources fighting it because it doesn't matter as much. It's fine."

My answer is no.

I have a deep lack of respect and huge hatred for these types of ass holes. If I became this type of person I would hate myself.

However, you are right in the fact that many people are like this exist and life is not fair. My hatred is just a personal preference. I can see a lot of people answering your question with a yes... which says a lot about people in general. Most people are ass holes and that's life.

> Most people are ass holes and that's life

Whilst I tend to agree with this "between the lines" as it were, it's not an attitude I can healthily recommend. Re-shape it to "most people are trying to get ahead and that's life" is a much more helpful way of looking at various situations, and makes human behavior much easier to understand and predict.

You may also find that it reflects back on you some.

Reply on news.ycombinator.com