I have significant sympathy for him missing out on sight (he's probably american, but if he lived in a country with working healthcare I would say that I'm glad that taxes would go towards whatever treatment might help him).
But there's this meme that any time you lament a negative experience about dating as a man, you're called an incel, an epithet that comes with so much baggage it has no place for HN, imo. Just speak to their points independently.
Being disabled sucks pretty bad. Here's a paraplegic justifying his suicide at the end of his essay: http://www.2arms1head.com/ -- I think stepping in to call someone an incel is just some weird shaming. I'd attract a minuscule fraction of the women I currently if I were a blind guy assuming I even hold it together enough to remain positive. I completely sympathize with their catharsis.
https://www.reddit.com/r/OkCupid/comments/a6e5mm/and_women_c...
> Men used it a ton more and women didn’t because they didn’t have to since men mostly did the reaching out. Basically men and women used the rating system differently.
> Also the study the data came from stated that despite the ratings, women consistently messaged both guys they ranked attractive and guys they ranked below average, while men consistently ONLY messaged the women they ranked absolutely topmost. Thus demonstrating that the messaging habits of the sexes are the reverse of the rating data.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QBtF3I7fDfU there's many such videos ... is anyone surprised by the results a great deal of men say yes, when reversed, and a jacked model looking guys asked women for sex guess the results 0.
The reality is that men are willing to have sex with broader range of women while most women want the same guys as all other women ... this is evolutionary as for a guy to reproduce bears no risk so he wants quantity while a woman is incapacitated for 9 months minimum, therefore the choices.
The above guy who called the poor dude an incel just acted like an idiot.
If you want to help, the first question is how to create a felt connection with the other person, which will give them some reason to be open to what you're saying. That's not so easy to do on the internet, though maybe sometimes possible. Words like "I have significant sympathy for him" and "his understandable distress" aren't sufficient though.