In my opinion, it involves a much deeper issue than the views of the individuals in those relationships. I would proprose there are limited ways to answer the question of "Who am I?" and "What is my purpose?".
1) We cannot know. 2) I decide for myself and my view is not influenced by any "other". 3) I am able to know and my view is influenced by an "other".
Obviously, how one answers those questions ultimately leads to the answer of your question. My personal belief is not at issue here. I was attempting to promote an openness of consideration of the views of others.
Our dilemma is discussing this topic is that we have the freedom to hold different systems of belief. This results in fundamental lacking of common ground which results in each of us appearing to be a bigot to the other. I would not propose anyone to have the spirit of bigot, but it appears some on the thread cannot entertain the possibility that others have a reasonable approach to how they view topics of personal belief, and the consistency is - at the very least - something not willing at the moment to be considered. Unfortunate.
It amazes me how no one challenges the logic. They just downvote.