As I understand it, you seem to point the blame for men relatively shorter lifespan (which in fact have consistently grow over the last decades in OCDE countries, except in the US) toward “more attention to women’s issues”.
Of course every single bit of attention to women’s issues have been a very long hard fight (for example thousands of women were dying each year of illegal abortion, for decades and centuries… that was not an easy fight to get this fixed, because men in charge couldn’t care less.)
But, hey, here’s are four points —in addition to the statistics others have pointed out— that paint a different picture than the “men have been abandoned” framing:
- Young men takes more risks and die more frequently of violent death (road accident for example, or alcool related accident in general). That’s a social posture that feminism is actively trying to change but strangely this is cherished by many men, who think changing the male culture is somehow bad for them. If we want young men to die less, let’s raise them as girls (I’m 100% serious). If you actively refuse to raise boys with girly values like care and empathy and being reasonable, then you are actively encouraging young men to risk their life in various stupid ways.
- Women health have been second to men health in many domains since a very long time. One reason has been under diagnosis (ex: cardiac issues used to be under diagnosed for women, might still be the case). Women are under diagnosed because doctors tend to think they are exaggerating their symptoms. This have been document by medical studies, for example in Canada, where they had relatively to the number of cases more death of cardiac complications for women than for men.
- You are right that more boys drop out of school. Again, several gender issues researchers have pointed that trend back in the 80s or 90s. I believe feminists were the first to alert on that trend (in any case, I first read about it in feminist publications). Yet, incredibly, men overall have a bigger share of total wages and occupy the top management seat and most of gouvernement seats in OCDE. Go figure! Maybe men are favorited after all?
- Back to medical research. Did you know that female subjects have been traditionally excluded from medical research when creating test group? It is called the medical gender gap, and has been documented and, of course, people have been trying actively to reverse it since the 90s because it is harmful for women.
Sorry if these 4 points might seem disjointed. But if you want to learn more, they might be a start for you. Dig and read feminist research.