Make 3 columns (for a start) : 1/ Explicit your expectations of the world. 2/ State what you see. 3/ State why you think things are this way, and how you could contribute to change them.
Putting this explicitly might transform anger into contemplation first, then understanding (of the disconnect, of the possible courses of action).
Then use this table to discuss this with people that could help you doing so.
Raising the bar for security in the software industry requires much more than just self reflection and elbow grease from individual engineers.
The solution requires buy in from all stakeholders. Especially management.
This kind of pop-psych babble is naive and abusive.
Anger is quite useful.
Victory achieved with the power of anger will not last for long?
My suggestion is to take distance towards things that keep us busy, stressed and angry.
This usually reduces the stress levels so much that some of the healthy and objective thinking capacity is gained. Can take some time though. Weeks. Even months. There is time!
In many cases we'll find that there indeed was something which is "side railed" within. And other things which are less than optimal with the outside world too. =)
Both aspects are equally important from our individual perspective.
What is inside we have better control for (though sometimes it really requires effort and patience to change even these things).
What is outside we can possibly start to bend according to our vision.
Before we start to bend outside, it would be good if we are clear within.
All that being said - This indeed can be the moment from which things start to turn to much better direction in so many ways. So perhaps even anger has it's purpose. Not as a tool, but as a initiator.
Godspeed!