This has also been my experience as a web developer mostly. I rarely see any applications that make use of foreign keys constraints supplied by the database server. Usually I see relations being handled by code on the application side.
Even when I build apps that are using SQL, I always implement this stuff in code instead of FKs even though I know how they work and when designing a database schema in an app like (for example) mysql workbench, I have the option to add them easily. But I always use the "ignore foreign keys" option and then implement the constraints in code. I just find it a bit more sane to have all of the logic inside the app.
I know I'm probably "doing it wrong" but would love to hear some other opinions about this from the hn crowd that does web development. I'm guessing that more "enterprisey" apps like CRM's and ERP's will probably use more of the native database stuff.