This will be borderline impossible for a nodejs developer, but a perfectly realistic expectation for e.g. a Django project.
Everywhere I’ve ever worked, adopting a dependent library was a HUGE DEAL. You don’t do it lightly. You have to know what’s in it, know what it calls, know what the license is, understand the increased security attack surface, measure how much bigger it makes your binary, measure any performance deltas, and so on. In bigger companies, you need to get all sorts of approvals... Who the heck are these companies where you just hook up the git submodule and wing it?
Since most applications nowadays are server side, you would usually already pull 1 GB+ of Docker layers, before you even add application + libraries.
Facebook on iOS seems to be around 400 MB of size (first result from quick googling, might be wrong), and average Electron app is 120 MB+, so I don't think the size is a huge concern.
On the developer side there's more though, you should know what their release cycles are like, how they manage compatibility, how long they support older releases etc. You don't what your app stuck in a 3 month upgrade cycle just because a transitive dependency needed an update.
There's a reason dependencies are there own form of technical debt and need to be minimized.
Having knowledge of every dependency explicitly linked into your application is a basic tenet of software development that literally every software professional would endorse as a necessary best practice, but it's not what we're talking about here. I am 100% certain that every developer with a commercial Electron app is aware that they are relying on Electron as a dependency and Github as a trustworthy software vendor.
I think you're conflating platforms and dependencies. The OS it runs on is a platform that the the user already trusts, left-pad is a dependency the developers are responsible for. There's some grey area like electron or the JVM but even there electron sticks out as a huge binary blob the user isn't explicitly asked to install.
You know all of the transitive dependencies in the application stack of your company? Out of curiosity, what is the ballpark figure on the total number of transitive dependencies in your application?
I'm a few years out of the Java world these days, but you've vetted every line in every one of those Apache commons projects that gets pulled in? Because that's a lot of reading...
Over 10 years ago I went through every single Java RSS parsing library and all their forks (I think there were 5) to fix Xml eXternal Entity (XXE) attacks (eg[1]) and submitted fixes for them all.
That was a huge amount of work, because they all used random version of different XML parsers, all of which required external entity processing to be turned off in different ways.
None of the authors of the packages were aware of the issue, and as far I could determine at the time I was the only person in the entire Java ecosystem who knew all the different parsers arguments.
This was a critical, remotely exploitable vulnerability. I'd never claim to know about it now, and it was only for a few weeks back in 2006 that I really knew it then.
So when you say you "know" all the dependencies in your stack, what do you mean exactly?
So, the process would be something like: have a problem that a library might solve, find a library that could solve the problem, verify it can solve the problem, look through the implementation, look through it's dependencies, then actually include it in the build. If anything doesn't look nice at each step, rollback and find something else or start writing your own implementation.
Do this from beginning of the project and you'll always have a full understanding of the system.
I will never in a million year ship anything on, for instance, node.js, for exactly this reason.
As a developer, I'm honestly and utterly stunned to see other developers arguing otherwise.