Well if you are ugly or awkward and are unwilling to do anything about it, you need to be less picky. You're the seller, women are the buyer. You probably need to work on your sales pitch. You should also work on what you have to sell. You also need to be brave enough to strike up a conversation and analyze the outcome. It's not easy for a shy person, but you can do it. It can't possibly make you feel worse than you are already feeling. If you suck at it, practice. Maybe have a more accomplished friend listen to your pitch and give advice.
Here is a good article I read at least once a year:
https://www.cracked.com/blog/6-harsh-truths-that-will-make-y...