That is true, but my wife and I were also separated for half of our first three years of marriage. As I deployed and shortly after I returned she deployed. We were also stationed in Turkey where at 4 months pregnant we learned the military would not allow her to give birth there anymore. She had to fly to the US with our older daughter at 7 months pregnant by herself and stay there until she gave birth. There are many pros to the military which have benefited us, but also many stresses those outside the military never deal with.