I drank to deal with it.
My wife's 18 year old brother died of a stroke in his sleep. He was an adopted kid who's biological mother was a cocaine addict.
She wrote a book about him.
I ended up with alcohol problems and she is close to getting a book deal. I'd say her approach was the superior one.
I've been very fortunate not to have lost loved ones so unexpectedly as you just did, but I find letting my mind wander in times of such stress is the best way of coping with loss.
On the other hand, this probably varies by personality, so consulting a professional (shrink, priest, rabbi, etc) is probably your best bet.
Great idea. Just don't go to anyone who can prescribe you pills.
For me it is technology, it is learning and it is applying.
Well put. But here is what keeps me up at night: as the tiny fraction of humanity's population lucky enough to be born in the right place at the right time, we have more ways of "applying ourselves" than the vast majority of people ever born has. How do we figure out what the best way of applying ourselves is? Is it grad school, or startups? If it's teaching inner city high school, why not rural India?
if we could figure that out and everyone figured it out and applied themselves we'd hit utopia overnight.