A favorite experience of mine was waiting at South Station and watching the train get delayed 5 minutes at a time for two and a half hours.
I disagree. This is a chicken-or-egg problem. Nobody is inherently against public transit. Having commuted in a few cities in North America, it's far more comfortable than sitting in traffic. If you have a good system, i think people would use it. The GO Train in the Greater Toronto Area is a good example; it's filled to the brim with white-collar city workers.
I knew plenty of people in the suburbs of Dallas who were against public transportation and any expansion of DART out to their towns. It was usually accompanied by talk of "that element" coming up from the city to rob their houses. It was fucking ridiculous, but unfortunately these people exist and need to be dealt with in order to get transit projects through.
[0]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Metra#/media/File:Metra-System...
American here. I do not think your class argument is correct with regards to commuter rail (though it probably is true for bus transit).
Want to fix this? Sure, easy, just scrap the democracy and just don't ask people, send those who object, to "re-education" camps. Or scrap market economy: if all land is government-owned, it won't be an issue at all.
More and better public transport in EU? For same reasons: less democracy and less market economy. More government-owner land, larger fraction of renters who just want cheaper rents (and public transport gives it to them), and they vote in the right direction, less legal opportunities for NIMBYsm.
https://www.citylab.com/transportation/2016/04/transit-stati...
I assume you don't live in San Francisco?
Ever been to Japan?
I'm just going to assume that you've never been to major Asian cities.