Some real quotes from this thread:
1. "As a male, it becomes very difficult to stand out if you are actually interested in someone."
2. "I know a few women that use Tinder: they are alone, late thirties and never got anything serious out of Tinder, but they use it to reassure their attractiveness"
3. "Bumble's rule is that Men are not even allowed to initiate contact...Given everything else happening in the world around gender discrimination, I find it interesting that a discussion around Bumble's practises has not come up."
4. "It's more like most women will go for 20% of the men. If you're part of the 80% you'll feel alone."
5. "All dating apps are filled with fakes and scams mostly perpetrated by those who own the app to milk you of your money."
6. "They're playing with people's emotions and not just giving them nothing - they're abusing people's most basic need of feeling loved."
Burner account because this is going to be an unpopular opinion, but guys: grow up. Stop whining. Stop blaming women -- they pursue the most attractive males just like you pursue the most attractive women, it's normal.
If you want to improve your dating prospects, get in shape. Anyone can get in shape, doesn't matter how rich or successful or handsome your face is.
Second, improve your social skills / join something. Volunteer somewhere. Join a run or hiking club. Don't just sit behind your computer and foam at the mouth how all the "Chads" are taking all the "Staceys".
HN has, IMHO, the best commentary about tech on the internet. And the absolute worst commentary on dating.