People who will jump on every excuse to go "well akshually it's not pedophilia" or "well actually it's not sexual assault" on the internet are not even slightly rare.
But they will be anonymous and the level of conversation will probably not be very high.
The MIT mailing list thread that provoked this whole discussion was pretty indistinguishable from any of the millions of reddit discussions on the exact same subject.
It seems that you have a desire to hyperbolically label things as "pedophilia" or "sexual assault", and simply don't like it being called out. And so you're engaging in social bullying based on stereotypes ("akshually") rather than keeping to the truth of the matter.