* Actor A burned your crops -> Do nothing (appeasement)
* Actor B disrupted your servers causing economic losses -> Do nothing (appeasement)
* Actor C stole your technology and sold it to everyone by a fraction of your price -> Do nothing (appeasement)
* Actor D manipulated a group within your nation to cause internal conflict -> Do nothing (appeasement)
* Actor E invaded your land and claimed as their -> Do nothing (appeasement)
* Actor F used their position of power to gain concessions from you -> Do nothing (appeasement)
* Actor G defamed you, leading to society admonishing you and potentially imprisonment -> Do nothing (appeasement)
Each Actor can be seen as both individuals or nations that are in existence today. Every one has their own set of interests and rationale for acting in certain ways.
There has always been war. There will always be people who think it's their destiny to rule over you, that you'll really be much happier if you're conquered, and if you don't meekly comply then maybe you just need to be ... liberated.
For as long as some people think they're better than others, there will be wars, and I don't see people not thinking that any time soon, do you?
War to them is total war. There is no difference. Everything can be weaponized and will be used. There is no choice.
Changing that line of thinking is first very different from western lines of thinking. Second, I'd say peace-movements in such environs have yet to take root, let alone produce the progress the West has seen since Vietnam.