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> If one finds Netflix, video games, partying, and vacations enjoyable; and they spend time pursuing those after becoming financially independent & retiring early, are they missing the big picture?

Each of us has to define the scope of his life, I personally have a hard time imagining that a fully developed human being will be deeply satisfied by consuming media. In French these things are called "divertissement", which literally means "diversion". There are many other things to explore than mere consumption. It's kind of the junk food of life, it makes you feel good for a short while but not that good in the long run. I doubt anyone will remember binge watching breaking bad as a milestone of there life (Or remember it at all).

I'm not saying these things are intrinsically bad, we should just be careful about how much of our life we dedicate to them, especially when work already takes most of our time already. If your life is work>consumption>sleep and you feel like you're missing something your probably are.

What else do you do every evening? For me, its working out, doing chores or Netflix, podcasts and video games. There is nothing else I could do. Too tired to learn new things and I need to recharge.

Meditation and writing are goods ways to both relax and learn more about yourself. Learning an instrument, drawing, painting are also a very good ways to relax while learning a skill that will follow you all your life and be productive instead of passively consuming content.

With internet we also have access to books summing up the knowledge of each era/geographic area. If you're asking yourself metaphysical questions you can be sure someone already wrote a book about it. Working out and listening to certain podcasts are solid activities too. Stretching/yoga can also help unfuck our bodies after being in a chair for 8 hours.

I don't think Netflix has the ability to make you evolve and become a better version of yourself like a good book can. Unplug and take it slow, it might feel weird at the beginning but you won't look back.

Forgotten to put reading into that list, I have weeks or months where reading is my goto activity (although less last 12 months). But honestly, despite my curiosity for everything, I don´t believe books can help me become a better version of myself. Books like Homo Deus by Yuval Noah Harari are interesting, but that´t pretty much it. Then you have books about how to be better at something (yourself), by forming good habits and so on. At the beginning (when I didn´t known much about anything), these books had been useful. But now, nothing I read touches me / changes me a bit. It´s all more of the same. Still useful for conversations, though.

Meditation, tried it several times. I don´t get it. Sometimes, nothing happens in my mind and I just sit there for minutes, observing nothing. Other times I can observe thoughts appearing and wandering off, then I refocus on my breathing technique. Both experiences do nothing for me. I feel the same afterwards, I do the same activities afterwards.

I find books on business beneficial. Self-help books do reach a saturation point as you said, they regurgitate similar advice.

I'm surprised meditation has no results! If I focus on breathing and maintain no thought (latter took practice) for 10 minutes, I get a very strong sense of peace and calm -- it's better than drugs. Do you not notice any reduced anxiety/stress?

I thought about it, getting more calm is definitely happening. But I attribute that to the breathing technique and not the "observe mind" part. I'm feeling hardly ever stressed, so don't see any need for it. Maybe I expect too much.

Thanks for your input, though! Appreciated.

"Too tired to learn new things and I need to recharge." This is the part where optimising for happiness kicks in. I was in a similar situation and it involved investing less energy in things I was doing to open up energy to learn music. Music probably won't help my career or physical fitness, but I'm gambling that it will pay off in happiness down the line.

Being able to play music / an instrument is certainly a great skill to have. Can´t do it myself, due to a shared flat, but a great thing to do!

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