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I met my husband less than a decade ago in a bar. I still talk to strangers in bars now too. Its not any more creepy to socialize with strangers in bars now than it was in the past, as long as you respect boundaries and aren't a creep about it.

The vast majority of people still meet their partners through "traditional" means, very, very few meet through sites and apps. And when I say "very, very few" I'm talking less than 10%.

https://www.mic.com/articles/112062/the-way-most-people-meet...

https://www.bustle.com/p/the-most-popular-ways-people-are-me...

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I saw an article recently[0] based on a Stanford study[1] that found 40% (!) of relationships that began in 2017 originated online.

[0] https://qz.com/1546677/around-40-of-us-couples-now-first-mee...

[1] https://web.stanford.edu/~mrosenfe/Rosenfeld_et_al_Disinterm...

You can claim anything with a survey these days. This one says 40% of couples meet online, and 60% of same-sex couples. And that is from 2017. Anecdotally I think you are out of touch, probably because you've been out of the dating game for a decade. Less than 10%? No way. Everyone has migrated to dating apps.

https://qz.com/1546677/around-40-of-us-couples-now-first-mee...

I think he meant buying the drink is creepy. I go to bars on occasion and meet women my age and younger, but I've never bought them a drink because I feel the same way (although I don't think they expect it either.)

Starting the conversation is hard and it can be very difficult to tell if they really want to talk before they do, I guess that's part of why you want a good bartender because they'll usually start conversations with everyone.

Welll you just dont walk straing in. You first exchange glances, see if shes alone, whatt shes drinking (soft drinks, hard licor, beer, some fancy cocktail) and judge something about her personality, if you think you have a chance, then you pay for a drink, or just straigth hit her with something, in my case somthing dumb like "Hey, how much a polar bear weigths? Enougth to break the ice!".

What I think is creep is some stranger who straigup knows your name, your face, and can just as easy starting to virtual stalking your life and find out where you live.

Fucking hating online dating solutions like tinder.... really not good talker on line, without seeing the person face to face.

Acctually what I meant is, young people usually think talking and interacting to strangers is creepy. Like. Ok you can be creep, and is easy to look creep when you talking to a beatfull woman an is an insecure nerd. Been there, done that.

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