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Plenty of people with kids manage to swing entrepreneurship and hot wives, so I don't see where the "but" is coming from.

For "faded looks", usually if you get your shit together fitness-wise, most women will follow your lead. Do you have your shit together?

Only thing I regret about procreation is not starting sooner. You have all your life to make money. The baby making window is finite.

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Absolutely true. The pessimistic view of "closing doors" once you start a family prevents one from doing anything. There won't be ever the right moment of starting a family, so why don't just do it now. I did it during my PhD studies, finishing now with my great little family. My partner and me both work hard to get towards our personal goals. Sure, we live in a European country. We don't profit from a close family but from cheap public-money-funded child care. I absolutely can understand the feeling of loosing power (I suffered a lot personally too), but if I got the correct idea I would not wait a minute to start a buisness. Or do anything else wildly time consuming.

I don't know if my wife and I could have managed everything if we had a kid sooner, since she was still in school and I was working really hard. But I can't help but notice that my ability to tolerate poor sleep and other issues having a baby creates are probably worse now than they would have been if I'd become a father even four or five years ago.

That all being said, absolutely no regrets, I love this kid more than anything in the world.

Another one in the sooner camp, I will be almost 50 when my boy is in highschool, not dead yet but I would have liked to have had them sooner, but my wife and I met in our 30's.

I echo this. I wish I had started sooner as well.

You are in control of your feelings of resentment and you are in control of pursuing whatever dream or passions you have.

Was going to write this.

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