The seatback device is a consumer electronic that can (and should) be experimented with, updated, upgraded, and replaced regularly. I don't care what OS it is using today or how fancy it looks - that has nothing to do with the first part of your question, which should (and fortunately usually is) altogether separate.
The off-the-shelf answer today is a variant of QNX or VxWorks. No one gets fired for picking those.