You are at odds with much of the clinical psychology community.

Maybe you should take a junior college course in reading comprehension.

Or, IIRC, "The fundamental problem in life is getting security in the face of the anxiety from our realization that alone we are vulnerable to the hostile forces of nature and society. Only four effective responses have been found, (i) love of god, (ii) love of spouse, (iii) membership in a group, and (iv) orgiastic or drugs (not recommended) just suppress the feelings.

So, we see: One of the pillars of love is (ii) love of spouse to respond to the anxiety that alone we are vulnerable to the hostile forces of nature and society. Or, it's not all about her eyes, lips, figure, or climaxes in sexual intercourse -- which he essentially never mentioned. Instead it's about responding to the anxiety of being alone, conveniently and appropriately enough, JUST as in the start of this thread.

THAT'S some really GOOD understanding of marriage, MUCH better than what get in pop culture.

Fromm's terrific.

Take a reading course then do what I advised -- read him again, compare with what you see in life, read him again and see what he says about what you just observed, rinse and repeat several times.