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Comment by therp43 | Hacker News Reader

Is there really anything to gain from contact with society? Most people run some sort of scam.

I ghosted a few years ago after bad divorce, and it was very good decision.

I’ve also noticed the perspective that a majority people seem to “have an angle”, whether that’s an outright financial scam, emotional manipulation, some sort of hustle, wanting to monetize your brain by employing you, or whatever. Interested to hear other people’s observations related to this.

Some communities are more transactional than others.

Everyone has an angle in that we're generally a social species and being around people we like and who confirm our worldviews and validate our ways of life (and make us laugh) gives us pleasure (to varying extents along the introvert to extrovert continuum), but the result of that is that some interactions are just that, interactions for the sake of interaction with no higher or lower motive than enjoyment.

If your social experiences actually end up more like businesspeople networking, which is certainly something that happens in many circles, then the transactional nature of it all can definitely become far too obvious and off-putting.

Not to forget they want to fuck you if you're a woman. But there are people who genuinely also want friends, but they are rare as you age.

Also people who just want to genuinely have fun in this life - they are a treasure

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