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Sigh. Will have to move to Canada or home after 17 years of living here. My kid, an American citizen, doesn't want to move but this is going to devastate my wife who has only recently started to work in the education field and I can't continue living here regardless of how much money I make.

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I would be happy to go back to India to build my own country. India is growing fast and can use some talent.

Personal reasons why I cannot go back easily. Going back is a last ditch option for me.

I know so many people who are in the same boat. It is nuts

I wish H1-B visa holders from India and China would organize themselves and stage a walkout + protests so that these politicians and companies understand the impact it'd have on their economy.

You've been on H1B for 17 years?

15 years. My GC has been in backlog for the last 9 years and I'll continue being on H1 for the next 5 years.

Sure if where you live is California. Plenty of other affordable states.

Oh, affordability is not a problem at all.I make about $500k/yr. My wife cannot work if this change takes effect and it'll take a huge mental toll on her and on our relationship.

With many people, the opposite is the case. Work interferes with the relationship. Suppose work is 8 hours per day, but there is also 8 hours of housework. If you split evenly, which isn't normal, that gives 12 hours per person with you both working outside the home. That goes down to just 8 if only one person works. You then have more time for the relationship.

You might need to make a cultural shift. You'd need to show appreciation for housework. If you're in the habit of looking down on people who do that, or if she herself is, then things won't go well.

I do all the laundry, cook on weekends (and on weekdays if required), etc. That's not the point. My wife wants to be able to pursue a career of her own not just for money. She won't be able to do this without a H4 EAD

If it really isn't about the money, she can volunteer. As long as she gets no pay (including no benefits) there shouldn't be a problem.

It is still strange to me. If she would do the laundry and cooking while you work, then the time you would have spent on those chores could be spent with her. You could go hiking, visit museums, play cards, take flying lessons, take scuba lessons, go dancing, etc.

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