If you play on blitz.chessbase.com, the position is continually evaluated -- they won't suggest moves while the game is live, but they will tell you who has the better position and by roughly how much.
Whenever there's a position where you don't see the reported advantage, or when a change in the assessment occurs that you didn't expect, that's an opportunity to go back afterwards and just look at those specific points in the game to see what the engine suggests.
If you really want to get good of course you need to be much more methodical in your study. But I started to find chess much more enjoyable once I left behind any long term ambitions.