> programmable programming language ... appealing ... not so helpful
This has also been my observation, and that of many actual Lisp hackers I talked to. It also mirrors the experience the developers of Smalltalk documented: at first they had ultimate flexibility, every object could in effect re-define the language completely. Not so good.
On the other hand, we also seem to be stuck a bit in a local maximum of expressiveness that, to many including myself, seems obviously not expressive enough.
What if ... the idea of a programmable programming language is actually good, but the implementations have not been as useful as we thought?
I think what is missing is a good meta-model and a good "language library", for want of a better term.
With most programmable programming languages, you are basically given the "it can do everything, now have fun" treatment. So everyone has some fun, implements "their own, incompatible versions of common utilities" then realises this isn't quite as useful as it was thought to be and gives up.
Going back to OO, I would claim that most OO "languages" by themselves are somewhat useless. What makes them incredibly useful is their class libraries. It is of course the languages that make these class libraries possible, but that's a second-order effect.
In fact, Smalltalkers have the saying "Talk small, but carry a big class library" (repurposing "speak softly and carry a big stick, you will go far.").
For me, the most useful meta-model is the analysis of software into components, connectors and styles that the software architecture people came up with. It appears to capture most of the variations in how we build software and has a useful, empirically built taxonomy.
In this meta-model, the connectors pretty much define styles, so the "language library" I mentioned above becomes a "connector library" in actual usable artefacts. Interestingly, existing languages seem to be describable as a set of connectors, and the connectors are very much related, so this does seem to solve the problem of lack of guidance.