Plus I have an ass now. So many upsides to doing deadlift.
I snapped a photo of my 16-year-old (not some massive ox of a child either) picking it off the ground with his middle finger.
+1 for deadlifting. Also easier to coach than the squat. Personally I think the hex bar deadlift is the safest movement for untrained people as it reduces the technical issues. I haven't experimented on people with this but I would intuitively suspect that some form of Zercher or strongman influenced move would be another good thing for the sedentary (obvs with lighter weights) as in Real Life, many objects are not conveniently barbell shaped.
Plus, once you really get into it, diet improves. When one can feel the effects of the terrible food they ate, people tend to naturally gravitate towards a high protein diet with enough carbs to support their growth. Also helps improve sleep patterns in my experience.
I'm being flip - and I've also felt the same effect - i.e. "with all this effort in the gym, let's not act like a f*wit in the kitchen". But it's not guaranteed.
Most importantly though: squatting didn't just make my physically stronger, it made me psychologically stronger. Your main risk in failing a deadlift is making a lot of noise dropping the bar. Failing a squat is much scarier, and the prospect of being at the bottom of a squat and having the choice to give up and figure out a way to get the bar off your back without getting crushed or to just fucking stand up really forces you to toughen up mentally.
I realized I was capable of so much more than what I gave myself credit for, and that is something that every person should feel about themselves.
I agree. After one bad accident where I was lucky to not be injured beyond a strained back, I went out and spent the money on a good power rack so I can safely dump the bar at the bottom of a failed bench press or squat.
I have seen a newbie fall forwards though, and that can be scary and dangerous. But they fell forwards because their form was horribly wrong.
I've had professional instruction, I don't arch my back, I've watched countless videos, and nothing seems to help. It's a big shame, as I've always liked to put a big focus below the waist, but it just doesn't work for me.
Do you have any tips?
Then squat is even harder but for me helped to focus on keeping foot pressure midfoot, not heels. Also i realized my hips/glutes were weak and i had never trained them properly, hence my form was bad and overusing quads. It took me a while to be able to go full range of motion with glutes contracted. So i first did like 3/4 squats, then 1/2 and now ass to the grass
But this is just if the problem is about the muscles/technique. If your back is damaged somehow, it won't fix that. But it could be that you just haven't learned to activate your back muscles properly and then do way too much weight, with your body compensating with your spine/other muscles