Kurzgesagt had a really great video[1] on loneliness that described the downward spiral that people find themselves in.
> > The controversial implication is that depressed people deliberately act in ways that are likely to maintain their low mood.
> How is this remotely controversial? Finding something you like is not the same as liking your state or disposition for depression.
i think that is controversial because it assigns agency to the person experiencing the depression, that they are causing their own depression. but the most common complaint from people with depression is that people are always telling them to "just cheer up" etc etc. this is the same sentiment in a specific context. "if you just didn't listen to depressing music all the time, maybe you wouldn't be so depressed."