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When I was younger, I wanted sex all the time. But around the time I turned 29 or 30 I rapidly began to lose interest in sex. It was like someone turned off a switch.

It doesn't seem normal - I should want sex more than I do. I'm healthy and my hormone levels are normal. Maybe I'm an outlier, but I wonder how many people aren't having sex because, for whatever reason, they're losing interest at a relatively young age.

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I have friends who spend almost all their free time playing video games. I ask them why don’t they want to occasionally go out, meet a girl, whatever, they’re content playing video games all the time at home, plus they like that it doesn’t cost them nearly as much money as going out. It’s a little sad to me but if that’s what they want to do it’s their lives. Video games have gotten very addictive -this may be a contributing factor.

One thing that's not being discussed much in this thread - having a low or declined libido is OK. There seems to be a huge social stigma or pressure - STILL - on men that they want (or should want) to get laid all the time. This is of course also pushed by the marketing teams behind e.g. viagra.

Maybe you have better things to do? Even if you're single, if you're doing reasonably well career wise, this is usually the time that you start becoming more "mature", have a lot of work experience, your peers trust and depend on you etc.

You might consider getting tested for testosterone levels if this concerns you.

I went from wanting sex every day in my mid 20s to wanting it only a few times a week in my 30s. I think it's normal. I'm more interested in having sex with more women than the same ones over and over again, though.

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