Do any of those scriptures tell the person they will endure torture in hell for the way they are? I think telling that to a kid is pretty damn close to violence
Surprisingly, not really. They'll endure torture in hell for the gay sex, but not being gay per se (note that but so will everyone who masturbates, or marries a foreigner, or wears clothing with mixed fabrics, or, according to Revelations, most Christians.
My underlying point would have been that the Bible considers the act of gay sex a sin, but sex between people of the same gender wasn't necessarily considered deviant in many ancient cultures (such as the Greeks.) The concepts of "heterosexual" and "homosexual" identity, or of "being gay" would have been alien.