Some establishments lie. I've had a cynical attitude in the past. But then, I've had enough places actually come back to me with a correction about their menu that they could have gotten away with not making, or checked on something that I didn't even think to check on, that I have faith that people aren't total scum out there. Parties though? If people disrespect me like that at a party, those are not people I ever want to party with.
I'm only going to go so far to verify. I accept the risk, and at a certain point the blame is on them for lying to me.