My suggestion: Seek out interesting conversation with people, don't target a potential mate. You'll greatly increase your potential pool of both friends and romantics, plus improve your standing within it
My suggestion: Seek out interesting conversation with people, don't target a potential mate. You'll greatly increase your potential pool of both friends and romantics, plus improve your standing within it
I've spent a lot of time in coastal California cafes near population centers like SF and Santa Cruz over the past 5 years, and it's perfectly normal for strangers to start conversations.
It's perfectly socially acceptable to chat up women and strangers in a public place like a bar or coffee shop as long as you have proper boundaries and leave people alone if they make it clear they want to be left alone. In fact, that's how I met my husband. Nowadays we frequent the same locations and we say hi and sometimes chat up the other regulars when we see them.
Might be true for your area, not for mine. Sounds like you live in a really bad place. Have you considered moving?