Books telling women how to behave have always been written. I'm not judging their intentions or consequences, but your conjecture isn't a remote possibility.

Men wrote the foundational texts for many religions. Many revered books are rife with discussions of the ideal woman or some such.

Some books written by women for women are also essentially written on behalf of men and their expectations.

(Disclaimer: I'm not acquainted with bell hooks' work.)

Comments like that reflect more badly on you than on anything else. For one thing, the book doesn't tell men how to behave, and your knee-jerk reaction demonstrating that you don't know what you're talking about just comes across as arrogant and infantile at the same time.

If this topic doesn't interest you, go elsewhere. Don't drag down the level of conversation for everyone else.

bell hooks is not "telling men how to behave." It is a book that seeks to empower men by understanding the structural ways in which masculinity can be harmful to men. This is a positive, affirmative message, not one that seeks censure or exclusion.

Besides, plenty of men have written books about feminism and gender. The reception is fine.

Probably would be received about as well as dudes whining about feminism in public forums.

Well, women aren't the ones who've held onto power over men for millennia.