tl;dr:

* all payments through google use google pay

* poster's husband bought a pixel 3 at the same time there was fraud on their card.

* the pixel 3 shipped even though the payment was reversed because of the fraud

* google shut down his google pay account hard, and that broke google fi, hangouts, access to his phone number, etc.

* google support has been super googley about this (ie foad)

* if you ever have fraud problems with google pay, prepare for all google stuff to break with 0 resolution or help

* as a side note, poster bought a pixel 3 and they have improved their support from the pixel 2 to be more googley. The phone remains basically broken.