Sounds like you haven't had to deal with family members in abject poverty before?

My parents can't work, for example. They're both disabled and rely on food stamps plus medicare just to survive. This puts a rather large financial burden on me at times to say the least, because I would rather not see my parents starve to death.

If only we had a government that took better care of people in poverty. Imagine that.

I think the two terms used by you and the parent don't always overlap neatly: "your family" and "those you love"

Depends on how balanced your family is and who you're giving the money to. Funding a peter pan brother is not the same as funding your retired parents so that they can afford some extra luxuries like travel and enjoy the rest of their lives.

And then there's the difference between loaning and gifting money.