So - these plastic ones are designed to fail, so why put a proper electronics there? So they skimp on power regulator as well (and that's probably what killed your LEDs).
Buy LEDs with metal radiators - they are more expansive, but they aren't designed to fail in a few months and should really last decades.
I haven't had your bad experiences with LED bulbs either though, mine seem to be lasting great so far.
I’m a few years into my first electric and would feel more comfortable with a solid supply of reasonably priced parts and service manuals.
There is an inherent risk to working on these vehicles w/out proper training--just like working on your home's electric has risks if you don't know what you're doing.
Also, conformal coatings are very, very bad for heat transfer. Power MOSFETs usually need to be heatsinked; conformally coating them would work against that.