It's not a "rejection" of your reality. AI and ad logic simply isn't very good, and apparently business sense isn't either. Maybe if there were products targeted at transgender people, somebody could make a killing with them.
How can she blame the algorithms for rejecting her, if her past actually contains things that the algorithm happens to pick up on?
Since everybody gets ads that don't appeal to them, clearly it is just a case of algorithms not being smart enough. It's like saying the sky rejects her because it isn't pink. It is blue for technical reasons, not to spite her identity.
Would you say the same about the situation in the linked article?
Maybe, to sum it up in a more friendly way, this quote is a good summary: "never attribute to malice what you can attribute to incompetence" (don't know who said it).
As for the miscarriage, I likewise wouldn't blame the algorithms or companies. However, I would think that most of them would be happy to learn and improve their algorithms. So pointing out such a flaw should hopefully be received well.